My younger brother, when he was about 13, told me that “usually” my dad loved him and could’ve had a better life. He said he was an alcoholic and never wanted to grow up. One day I found him lying down drunk in the backyard. I told him he had to come home to me. He wasn’t understanding. After a while he came out of the backyard carrying an alcoholic brewskis. He drank himself drunk again. After that I left home and haven’t seen him in years.
He told me that I made an amazing baby boy. I always said I couldn’t have a son because I wanted an infant girl, but he said I didn’t need to have a girl because I already had him. I have a daughter, who’s five years old. I keep telling him how much I love him and the baby girl. He acts as if nothing’s wrong. I’m sure I am doing everything I can do to bring him back to me. I’m sure he would like to see me and the baby girl. All I want is to have our brother back, but all I get is excuses. Help!
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